Friday, June 22, 2012

Getting Organized

We've been living in our new home for several months now, and I am finally ready to get ORGANIZED!
After I moved into my home, I began looking online for resources on how to get organized or suggestions on how to sort through a loved ones belongings. Here's the problem, everything I found was regarding different situations where they would divide ALL of the belongings amongst family members. Obviously, I still need the majority of the things in the home, and I am by no means ready to part with any of his belongings. 
So, what about widows? What about us young widows with young children? My goal is not to create a shrine to my husband, but hold his memory dear for the boys to remember and learn about who he was.

Finally, thanks to Pinterest, I stumbled upon a website! You can find her blog at "Modern Parents Messy Kids". I will be using this site as a guide to lead me through organizing my entire house.

This summer, it is my goal to get organized. I have to get organized, for my sanity.
As I go through this task, which will hopefully start in the next two weeks, I will take pictures of the before and after, and I will post tips or things that I may encounter. I know this will be exciting to cut a ton of stress out of my life by being organized again, but I also know that it will be emotional to go through and part with some things. 
Please join me in this if you need to get organized, or just learn more about how to get organized!
It's time.

Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Perspective

Perspective.....

I'll be honest and confess that sometimes I want to shake people when they complain about their circumstances and yell "Get some perspective!" in their face. Complaining about not seeing their husbands, having a rough day, "playing" single parent, and frustrating things that their husbands may do. I want to tell them that "playing" single parent and being a single parent are completely different, I've done both and caring for my three sons under the age of six, while grieving, is the HARDEST thing I have ever done in my life. I also want to tell them to treasure every breath, every moment that they have with their spouse, as it can be gone in a second. And if they're temporarily gone, stop throwing it in the faces of those of us who will NEVER have ours back.

But, then I realize just how selfish I am and that I need some perspective, and here is why:

  1. I don't know each individual circumstance, I don't know exactly why that person may be upset or what is going on behind the scenes.
  2. Not everyone handles things the same way, people grieve and cope with things in completely different ways. It's not my place to judge how they do so.
  3. There is always something to be thankful for. My boys and I are healthy, we have a beautiful home, a great vehicle, my kids are getting a Christian education, I have the best friends and family, I love my church, and much more!
  4. I think this one can apply to all of us and while it's so cliche, it's true. While my circumstances are not ideal, as many of yours are not as well, there is someone much worse off than me. When I start thinking or complaining about the next thing that's happened in my journey, I try to remember the widows of past wars. I try to think of that widow who is not only suffering through her own grief, but is also suffering from cancer. I try to think of my children, and the pain that they feel or will feel. I think about those in other countries that don't have the freedom that we have here.
There is so much that each and every one of us can be thankful for. It's all about perspective, not self. I want to apologize to those that I have gotten angry with when I feel they need some perspective, because I know that some may feel the same way about me. I'm not going to lie, I know I'll continue to get upset about it, and maybe even hide some people on Facebook to avoid having those feelings, but I hope that the next time that I want to get upset about it, that perspective slaps me across the face.